We’ve all had to deal with the horrific temper tantrum when our child doesn’t get the toy they’ve decided they want from the shopping centre. Being a parent means you’ll also likely have your little one tell you they hate you at some point. Anger is a new emotion to children and one they tend to use as a defence mechanism. You can help your angry child deal with anger by following a few useful tips:
Never Tell Your Child Their Feelings Do Not Matter
Concentrating can be tough for young kids. Sometimes they can get so swamped with information that they end up going through the motions as opposed to actually retaining what they’re learning. When they’re starting to hit that wall, get them up and give their minds a mental shake up with a brain break. We’ve come up with five brain breaks to help your kids focus:
Never Mirror Your Child’s Behaviour
You’re the adult. Behave like one. Little kids can lose control of their emotions and get worked up very easily. Your job is to stay composed and guide them. Rather than mirror their behaviour, attempt to maintain a state of calm. By displaying anger you could directly or indirectly scare your child or make them feel as though you’re teasing them.
Make The Boundaries Clear
Your children need to know what behaviour is acceptable or unacceptable. From a young age try and make them aware that physical violence won’t be allowed and that there are consequences linked to bad behaviour. If your rules remain constant you’ll find your kids will be more likely to respect the rules you lay out.
Bond With Your Kid
Take the time to speak to your child and bond with them. If they know they can approach their parent easily, they’ll find it simpler to process and problem solve, which will ensure less angry temper tantrums.
A well bonded child feels far more like he or she can depend on you, as a parent. By following these guidelines you’ll spend less time trying to negotiate with a screaming little one and far more time helping your child develop into an emotionally balanced adult.