Raising Emotionally Healthy Children
Children inherently learn their behaviour and communication skills from their parents. How you communicate with your kids will directly influence how they will communicate and express themselves in their adult life. Studies have shown that parents that suffer from codependency can transmit these unhealthy patterns on to their children.
Some symptoms of codependency are:
- Poor boundaries
- A need for control
- Low self esteem
- A lack of assertive communication
- Overly focusing on something or someone
- Denying and devaluing the wants, needs and feelings of others
It’s rather difficult to attribute some of those characteristics to young children, but consider if you can identify those attitudes in your own behaviour? If you can, you might unwittingly be passing on these traits to your children.
If you are self-aware, you as a parent, can actively work on ensuring you do not pass your negative habits on to your children, thus helping them grow up emotionally healthy. Here are three parenting techniques to assist with raising happy and independent kids:
Allow Your Children Freedom Of Expression
Your kids need to be able to express their emotions, their feelings, their thoughts and their observations. You can’t fix your child’s emotions but if they’re sad, rather comfort them or talk about what made them sad; simply responding with “don’t feel sad